1. queueOutboxEvent no longer creates pending peer placeholders when
autoAcceptPeering is disabled — prevents bypassing the admin's
peering control
2. Approval endpoint checks for 202 before response.ok — when the
remote also has autoAcceptPeering off, sets peer to awaiting_approval
instead of incorrectly activating it
3. awaiting_approval status added to Federation panel UI — status label,
colors, filter options so these peers are visible and manageable
Jannis Braun
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