Sliding-window rate limiter (30 req/min per peer origin) on POST
/api/federation/relay, matching the existing accept endpoint pattern.
Returns 429 when exceeded — outbox workers retry with backoff. Check
runs before HMAC verification to avoid wasted computation on floods.
Extract processRelayEvents() from the relay HTTP handler and call it
directly in runInitialSyncForNewPeers(), eliminating the HTTP round-trip
through public DNS that failed on networks without hairpin NAT.