fix: explore tab first-click navigation and misleading empty state

Clear stale currentChannelId when clicking Explore/DMs in ServerSidebar,
and guard AppLayout route effect from clobbering showExplore. Move member
exclusion into SQL for correct pagination/totals, surface allSettled errors,
and show context-aware empty state messages.

packages/web/src/components/layout/AppLayout.tsx

@@ -183,7 +183,9 @@ export function AppLayout() {
   // Handle route params
   useEffect(() => {
     if (serverId === '@me') {
-      setShowDms(true);
+      if (!useUIStore.getState().showExplore) {
+        setShowDms(true);
+      }
       setCurrentServer(null);
     } else if (serverId) {
       setShowDms(false);

packages/web/src/components/layout/ServerSidebar.tsx

@@ -124,6 +124,7 @@ export function ServerSidebar() {
   const setShowExplore = useUIStore((s) => s.setShowExplore);
   const openModal = useUIStore((s) => s.openModal);
   const addToast = useUIStore((s) => s.addToast);
+  const setCurrentChannel = useChatStore((s) => s.setCurrentChannel);
   const unreadChannels = useChatStore((s) => s.unreadChannels);
   const instances = useInstanceStore((s) => s.instances);
   const navigate = useNavigate();
@@ -188,12 +189,14 @@ export function ServerSidebar() {
   const handleDmClick = () => {
     setShowDms(true);
     setCurrentServer(null);
+    setCurrentChannel(null);
     navigate('/channels/@me');
   };
 
   const handleExploreClick = () => {
     setShowExplore(true);
     setCurrentServer(null);
+    setCurrentChannel(null);
     navigate('/channels/@me');
   };