fix: exclude acting user from federated call end/reject broadcast

sendToFederatedCallUsers sent dm_call_ended/rejected back to the user
who initiated the action. They already disconnected in their click
handler — the redundant event triggered disconnectFn() again, causing
connect and disconnect sounds to play simultaneously.

Added excludeUserId parameter to sendToFederatedCallUsers, used in
handleDmCallEnd and handleDmCallReject Path 2.

packages/server/src/ws/events.ts

@@ -1589,11 +1589,12 @@ function handleDmCallReject(event: Record<string, unknown>, userId: string): voi
       : undefined;
 
   if (fedCall) {
+    // Exclude the rejecting user — they already handled their own state
     connectionManager.sendToFederatedCallUsers(fedCall.federatedId, {
       type: 'dm_call_rejected',
       dmChannelId: fedCall.dmChannelId,
       federatedCallId: fedCall.federatedId,
-    } as ServerEvent);
+    } as ServerEvent, userId);
     connectionManager.clearFederatedCall(fedCall.federatedId);
 
     const db = getDb();
@@ -1660,11 +1661,13 @@ function handleDmCallEnd(event: Record<string, unknown>, userId: string): void {
       : undefined;
 
   if (fedCall) {
+    // Exclude the user who ended the call — they already disconnected in their click handler.
+    // Sending dm_call_ended back to them causes redundant disconnectFn() and double sounds.
     connectionManager.sendToFederatedCallUsers(fedCall.federatedId, {
       type: 'dm_call_ended',
       dmChannelId: fedCall.dmChannelId,
       federatedCallId: fedCall.federatedId,
-    } as ServerEvent);
+    } as ServerEvent, userId);
     connectionManager.clearFederatedCall(fedCall.federatedId);
 
     const db = getDb();

packages/server/src/ws/handler.ts

@@ -758,13 +758,15 @@ class ConnectionManager {
    *  ALWAYS uses ringedUserIds, never sendToDmMembers — sendToDmMembers would
    *  also reach the caller's replicated stub, causing cross-instance event contamination
    *  (the caller's multi-instance WS gets dm_call_accepted with the wrong dmChannelId). */
-  sendToFederatedCallUsers(federatedId: string, event: ServerEvent): void {
+  sendToFederatedCallUsers(federatedId: string, event: ServerEvent, excludeUserId?: string): void {
     const call = this.federatedCalls.get(federatedId);
     if (!call) return;
     for (const uid of call.ringedUserIds) {
+      if (uid !== excludeUserId) {
         this.sendToUser(uid, event);
       }
     }
+  }
 
   /** Send to a room — routes to sendToSpace (space rooms) or sendToDmMembers (DM rooms). */
   sendToRoom(roomId: string, event: ServerEvent, excludeUserId?: string): void {