feat: real-time user profile updates and propagate avatarColor to all Avatar callsites

Broadcast user_updated events over WebSocket when profile fields change,
updating members, DM participants, friends, and cached messages in real time.
Widen useVoiceParticipantMeta to return the full user object and add a
standalone avatarColor prop to Avatar so all ~16 callsites now resolve
the user's chosen gradient color instead of falling back to hash-based colors.

packages/web/src/components/chat/FriendsPage.tsx

@@ -245,7 +245,7 @@ function FriendItem({ friend, onRemove, onDm }: { friend: TaggedFriend, onRemove
   return (
     <div className="flex items-center justify-between px-3 h-[62px] rounded-[8px] hover:bg-interactive-hover group transition-colors border-t border-interactive-muted mx-2">
       <div className="flex items-center gap-3">
-        <Avatar src={friend.avatar} name={friend.displayName ?? friend.username} size={32} status={friend.status} userId={friend.homeUserId ?? friend.id} />
+        <Avatar src={friend.avatar} name={friend.displayName ?? friend.username} size={32} status={friend.status} userId={friend.homeUserId ?? friend.id} avatarColor={friend.avatarColor} />
         <div className="flex flex-col leading-tight">
           <div className="flex items-center gap-1.5">
             <span className="text-txt-primary font-semibold text-[15px]">{friend.displayName ?? friend.username}</span>
@@ -297,7 +297,7 @@ function RequestItem({ request, type, onAccept, onDecline, onCancel }: {
   return (
     <div className="flex items-center justify-between px-3 py-2.5 rounded-lg hover:bg-interactive-hover group transition-colors border-t border-interactive-muted mx-2">
       <div className="flex items-center gap-3">
-        <Avatar src={user.avatar} name={user.displayName ?? user.username} size={32} status={user.status as any} userId={user.homeUserId ?? user.id} />
+        <Avatar src={user.avatar} name={user.displayName ?? user.username} size={32} status={user.status as any} userId={user.homeUserId ?? user.id} avatarColor={user.avatarColor} />
         <div className="flex flex-col">
           <div className="flex items-center gap-1.5">
             <span className="text-txt-primary font-bold text-sm">{user.displayName ?? user.username}</span>