diff --git a/packages/server/src/routes/dm.ts b/packages/server/src/routes/dm.ts
index 23416951..a7e603e1 100644
--- a/packages/server/src/routes/dm.ts
+++ b/packages/server/src/routes/dm.ts
@@ -21,6 +21,7 @@ import {
 import { sanitizeUser } from '../utils/sanitize.js';
 import { deleteUploadFile, deleteAttachmentFiles } from '../utils/fileCleanup.js';
 import { fetchDmEmbedsForMessages, resolveEmbeds, reResolveEmbeds, embedRowToEmbed } from '../utils/embedResolver.js';
+import { appendMutationLog, queueOutboxEvent, buildRelayPayload } from '../utils/federationOutbox.js';
 
 /**
  * Batch-fetch reactions for a set of DM message IDs.
@@ -970,6 +971,12 @@ export async function dmRoutes(app: FastifyInstance): Promise<void> {
     // Broadcast to all DM members (including those who closed the channel)
     broadcastDmMessage(id, message);
 
+    // Federation: log mutation and queue for relay
+    appendMutationLog(messageId, id, 'create');
+    queueOutboxEvent(messageId, id, 'create', JSON.stringify({
+      message: { ...buildRelayPayload(message, message.user), attachments: [] },
+    }));
+
     // Resolve embeds asynchronously after responding
     setImmediate(() => {
       resolveEmbeds(messageId, content?.trim() || null, id, true, null).catch(() => {});
@@ -1031,6 +1038,12 @@ export async function dmRoutes(app: FastifyInstance): Promise<void> {
       });
     }
 
+    // Federation: log mutation and queue for relay
+    appendMutationLog(id, msg.dmChannelId, 'update');
+    queueOutboxEvent(id, msg.dmChannelId, 'update', JSON.stringify({
+      message: buildRelayPayload(updated, updated.user),
+    }));
+
     // Resolve new embeds asynchronously (old ones already deleted above)
     setImmediate(() => {
       resolveEmbeds(id, content.trim(), msg.dmChannelId, true, null).catch(() => {});
@@ -1093,6 +1106,10 @@ export async function dmRoutes(app: FastifyInstance): Promise<void> {
       });
     }
 
+    // Federation: log mutation and queue for relay
+    appendMutationLog(id, msg.dmChannelId, 'delete');
+    queueOutboxEvent(id, msg.dmChannelId, 'delete', JSON.stringify({ deleted: true }));
+
     return reply.code(200).send({ success: true });
   });
 }
diff --git a/packages/server/src/utils/federationOutbox.ts b/packages/server/src/utils/federationOutbox.ts
index f4c60f9e..c030c8cd 100644
--- a/packages/server/src/utils/federationOutbox.ts
+++ b/packages/server/src/utils/federationOutbox.ts
@@ -217,8 +217,8 @@ export function buildRelayPayload(
   message: {
     id: string;
     content: string | null;
-    replyToId: string | null;
-    editedAt: number | null;
+    replyToId?: string | null;
+    editedAt?: number | null;
     createdAt: number;
   },
   user: {
@@ -232,8 +232,8 @@ export function buildRelayPayload(
     homeUserId: user.homeUserId || user.id,
     homeInstance: user.homeInstance || '',
     content: message.content,
-    replyToId: message.replyToId,
-    editedAt: message.editedAt,
+    replyToId: message.replyToId ?? null,
+    editedAt: message.editedAt ?? null,
     createdAt: message.createdAt,
   };
 }
diff --git a/packages/server/src/ws/events.ts b/packages/server/src/ws/events.ts
index b62b3597..b98e2e0b 100644
--- a/packages/server/src/ws/events.ts
+++ b/packages/server/src/ws/events.ts
@@ -11,6 +11,7 @@ import { ACTIVITY_LIMITS } from '@backspace/shared/src/activities.js';
 import { sanitizeUser } from '../utils/sanitize.js';
 import { deleteAttachmentFiles } from '../utils/fileCleanup.js';
 import { resolveEmbeds, reResolveEmbeds, embedRowToEmbed } from '../utils/embedResolver.js';
+import { appendMutationLog, queueOutboxEvent, buildRelayPayload } from '../utils/federationOutbox.js';
 
 /**
  * Re-evaluate SPEAK permission for all participants in voice channels
@@ -885,6 +886,12 @@ function handleDmMessageCreate(event: Record<string, unknown>, userId: string):
   // Broadcast to all DM members (including those who closed the channel)
   broadcastDmMessage(dmChannelId, dmMessage);
 
+  // Federation: log mutation and queue for relay
+  appendMutationLog(messageId, dmChannelId, 'create');
+  queueOutboxEvent(messageId, dmChannelId, 'create', JSON.stringify({
+    message: { ...buildRelayPayload(dmMessage, dmMessage.user), attachments: [] },
+  }));
+
   // Resolve embeds asynchronously
   setImmediate(() => {
     resolveEmbeds(messageId, hasContent ? content!.trim() : null, dmChannelId, true, null).catch(() => {});
@@ -983,6 +990,12 @@ function handleDmMessageEdit(event: Record<string, unknown>, userId: string): vo
     });
   }
 
+  // Federation: log mutation and queue for relay
+  appendMutationLog(messageId, msg.dmChannelId, 'update');
+  queueOutboxEvent(messageId, msg.dmChannelId, 'update', JSON.stringify({
+    message: buildRelayPayload(updated, updated.user),
+  }));
+
   // Resolve new embeds asynchronously (old ones already deleted above)
   setImmediate(() => {
     resolveEmbeds(messageId, content.trim(), msg.dmChannelId, true, null).catch(() => {});
@@ -1041,6 +1054,10 @@ function handleDmMessageDelete(event: Record<string, unknown>, userId: string):
       dmChannelId: msg.dmChannelId,
     });
   }
+
+  // Federation: log mutation and queue for relay
+  appendMutationLog(messageId, msg.dmChannelId, 'delete');
+  queueOutboxEvent(messageId, msg.dmChannelId, 'delete', JSON.stringify({ deleted: true }));
 }
 
 // ─── Reaction Handlers ─────────────────────────────────────────────────────
@@ -1114,6 +1131,22 @@ function handleReactionAdd(event: Record<string, unknown>, userId: string): void
       messageId,
       reaction: { id: reactionId, messageId, userId, emoji, createdAt: now, user: userObj },
     });
+
+    // Federation: log reaction mutation and queue for relay
+    appendMutationLog(messageId, dmMsg.dmChannelId, 'reaction_add', JSON.stringify({
+      userId,
+      homeUserId: reactionUser?.homeUserId || userId,
+      emoji,
+      createdAt: now,
+    }));
+    queueOutboxEvent(reactionId, dmMsg.dmChannelId, 'reaction_add', JSON.stringify({
+      reaction: {
+        userId,
+        homeUserId: reactionUser?.homeUserId || userId,
+        emoji,
+        createdAt: now,
+      },
+    }));
   } catch (err) {
     // Unique constraint violation (already reacted)
   }
@@ -1171,6 +1204,26 @@ function handleReactionRemove(event: Record<string, unknown>, userId: string): v
       userId,
       emoji,
     });
+
+    // Federation: log reaction removal and queue for relay
+    const removingUser = db.select().from(schema.users).where(eq(schema.users.id, userId)).get();
+    appendMutationLog(messageId, dmMsg.dmChannelId, 'reaction_remove', JSON.stringify({
+      userId,
+      homeUserId: removingUser?.homeUserId || userId,
+      emoji,
+    }));
+    queueOutboxEvent(
+      `${messageId}:${userId}:${emoji}`,
+      dmMsg.dmChannelId,
+      'reaction_remove',
+      JSON.stringify({
+        reaction: {
+          userId,
+          homeUserId: removingUser?.homeUserId || userId,
+          emoji,
+        },
+      }),
+    );
   }
 }